A Grandfather's Advice to his Grandson

My Best Advice
by Victor Sonder

#1 - Be proud and confident about how you look, how you think, your family, your background and upbringing, your opinions and viewpoint and your goals and ambitions. Those who disparage any of these are most likely insecure, envious and less accomplished than you are.

#2 - Don't worry about fitting in and don't make fitting in one of your goals. Almost always, what you're trying to become a part of is shallow and mediocre. The "cool crowd" is probably afraid of individuality and threatened by those who see things differently.

#3 - Listen to the little voice inside your head. It's almost always "the truth" speaking. Hear what that voice is saying and you'll choose the right option and go down the right road.

#5 - Only you can define "success." Find what you LOVE to do and make that your life's work. Then get up earlier, stay later, work harder and learn more than your competitors. Be more focused and passionate, and you WILL succeed.

#6 - Your family, friends … people are what count. Not money, fame and success (though they do feel good). Kindness, concern and compassion for those less fortunate - including animals - is the greatest virtue.

#7 - Be open to love but not desperate for it. And know when to leave a relationship (that little voice will let you know). But remember #6 above. Leave gently.

#8 - On grooming: Take care of your teeth. Buy a Waterpik and use it every day (mix water & Listerine). Get your teeth cleaned every six months. Get a tongue scraper and use it. BAD BREATH is a deal breaker. Shower often and use deodorant. Clean is good.

#9 - DON'T GET MARRIED BEFORE 30!!! You are not conscious until you reach that age.